I was looking forward to doing Sunday Six with the boys this week, Kelly has awesome Questions up all bout the Oscars. But something more important has come up.
Spousal Abuse.
Sure I feel a certain amount of shame in admitting that this … problem exists, and particularly that it exists in my own home. But maybe by talking about it, we can solve this … issue.
I don’t feel comfortable reporting it to my family doctor, what if they decide to dig deeper to see if the children are fine, how embarrassing would that be!! They are fine, so don’t worry! And even though Health Care is covered here in Canada, Mental Health Care is not, and I could never afford the fees a counselor would charge. So I’m going to lay on this couch and tell you my woes and you all can be my Shrink, OK?
But don’t send me a bill, I won’t pay it.
Lets see. Lets start with the fact that just last night there was a punch to the face, a knee to the small of the back and an elbow rammed between the shoulder blades of that same, very sore, back. Thankfully nothing was broken and there are no bruises to cover up, although, being winter time, no one looks twice when you wear bulky long sleeved sweaters and turtlenecks.
So How do we get past this problem? Even when all of this is happening, I still love him. He is a good provider, he is great with the kids, and hey, lets face it, he is amazing in bed.
I just don’t like the hitting. And frankly I don’t think he likes it anymore then I do, It just seems to happen.
A lot.
This morning during the customary apology that follows nights like the last, I couldn’t help but think in the back of my mind, that he deserved it.
Maybe this will teach him to take my side of the bed instead of trying to reclaim his side after I have fallen asleep on it.
∗ Posted by bluepaintred on 02.25.2007
∗ I'm Important too
You frighten me…
Comment by Mr. Fabulous - February 26, 2007 2:37 am
Don’t you think a king size bed would be cheaper than a therapist?
Or how about twin beds?
Or separate bedrooms?
Or separate houses?
Comment by Blogarita - February 26, 2007 3:25 am
this is a joke right? please tell me its a joke.
Comment by Catch - February 26, 2007 3:50 am
LE SIGH PEOPLE LE SIGH
the other night i fell asleep before JJ, and i ended up on his side of the bed. When he tried getting into his side and moving me over, in my sleep i hit him. cus I was sleeping. on his side. didnt realise i was hitting anything much less him. because i was asleep.
I even had JJ read this for me to make sure people would understand this. i think blogarita did…
but no i do not beat my husband even when he deserves it
Comment by Bluepaintred - February 26, 2007 7:01 am
You did have me scared for minute.
Let’s face it, men are territorial. You must fall asleep on your side in the future because he will never just accept that you’re on HIS side. They’re babies, too.
But you already knew that, didn’t you?
Comment by Finn - February 26, 2007 9:20 am
I agree with Blogarita, seperate beds/rooms would work…but then how do you have sex??? (that’s only like the most impotant thing to having a hubby)
Comment by Coffee Mom - February 26, 2007 9:22 am
See Big D knows better. I have swung in my sleep too, so now he just crawls into the 3 inches of bed I have left for him on his side. HAHAHAHAHA. It’s even worse when the girl has crawled into bed to cuz she takes more room then both of us. She ends up sideways or spread eagle or some other contorted shape, I wonder sometimes how she sleeps at all.
RoxDar
Comment by Anonymous - February 26, 2007 9:36 am
Mr.Fab that sucks, this post wasnt ment to frighten, merely to scared and then make you laugh with giddy relief. My bad.
Blogarita Id E a king size, but our room is too small for one, plus king sized sheets are horribly expensive!
Catch Yes.I choose A)joke. Final answer. Sorry
Finn See you got it exactly, scared at first then please it was not true. Sigh. Lost in translation i guess.
Coffee mom I have always wondered that as well. Sex with seperate rooms. how does that work. Or sex while co-sleeping with a child. how do you give that kid a sibling?
RoxDar Oye. We slept with Stuperman on Firday night. It was the worst sleep EVER!
Comment by Bluepaintred - February 26, 2007 9:43 am
Thank goodness!I thought you were way too spunky to get the shit beat out of you and I think JJ is way to gentle to be a wife beater…but in this day and age….ya just never know. Glad it was a joke!!! I can call off the rescue dogs!
Comment by Catch - February 26, 2007 9:47 am
Catch .. although, in the summer, im not sure there really are that many mosquitos landing on me that he has to swat away… no no im joking. i didnt think anyone would be worried after eading the last line,. Im a bad blogger.Wanna… ahem..hit me?
Comment by Bluepaintred - February 26, 2007 10:56 am
i was hoping this was where you were going with this…lmao! LOVED this post!
Comment by Webmiztris - February 26, 2007 11:40 am
Alright, you had me at first, but I don’t think it was unclear at the end that you meant you were the hitter. It’s perfectly normal I think. Sometimes you need to smack ‘em around a little to keep them in line.
Comment by Monkee - February 26, 2007 11:47 am
WebMiz Glad you liked it. i was getting worried!
Monkee to be perfectly honest, I do hit him. like when he is saying soemthing funny and or stupid, (they usually go together), i will whack his shoulder. and once when RM was about three months old and was crying and crying and crying and all i wanted was for someone else to hold the baby for just a minute so i could sleep he came in the babies room and took the baby from me and i got mad for some reason, really mad, and i slapped him. for doing exactly what i wanted him to do. So yea, not my most shining moment.
Comment by Bluepaintred - February 26, 2007 12:26 pm
You crack me up…I’m thinking I was the only one (’cept for Blogarita) laughing… sorry…
Knock a wall out - make the room bigger and then get that bigger bed.
Comment by Fantastagirl - February 26, 2007 7:26 pm
that was just fucked up…
Comment by Nobodyâ„¢ - February 26, 2007 7:39 pm
Get your sex, then send him in to sleep with one of the boys. He’ll LOVE coming back to your beatings!!
Comment by Tug - February 26, 2007 8:11 pm
You scared me, you brat! I do the same to my husband when he snores. Damn it, I have every right, he keeps me awake.
Comment by Shelli - February 26, 2007 9:38 pm
fantastagirl meh, our next house, one of my biggest “wants” for it is a HUGE masterbedroom, big enough for a king, and the ensuite will have a whirlpool tub. heaven
Nobody what if i promis not to sleep with you and thus hit you? is that better?
Tug I would NEVER be so evil as to send omeone, even my worst enemy, to sleep with one of my boys. i swear theya re more active asleep then awake!
Shelli see the difference here was I was asleep while i did it. I cant help it. I love sleep
Comment by Bluepaintred - February 26, 2007 10:13 pm
Sleep wherever you want, but doze off with a bullwhip in hand…. Then he’ll stay out of your way.
Unless he likes that kind of thing.
Comment by Marilyn - March 3, 2007 12:50 pm